Let’s be honest with ourselves for a minute. How many times this week did you compare yourself to someone around you? You know, that mom at church whose kids always act perfect, your friend who is the perfect size 4 and runs 5 miles each day effortlessly, the lady down the street whose house always looks like a magazine cover, your high school friend who has a super successful career and never seems to have a worry in the world… you get the picture.
So why do we do this to ourselves? We fail to see our own strengths and criticize everything we do. But we hold those around us on a pedestal that we feel we could never reach. But the crazy part is, they do the same thing to themselves.
Social media only seems to enhance this picture perfect lifestyle. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE it and I don’t have any intent of not using it. In fact, it’s my lifeline and is a platform that provides a great income for my family. But I’ve been really convicted that I don’t share my mess often enough. I only share the moments when things look like they are going well.
So this is me being real and raw. Check out a real look into my unedited week:
My house is usually covered in kid toys and dog toys, which I step on more times than I can count in a day.
And my kitchen, well let’s just say this is what it looks like every single day!
My office stays clean for 2.3 seconds and then it somehow turns back into this …. it stresses me out and baffles me all at the same time.
Oh, and Wednesday I took my children to Chick Fil A and posted this photo with my journal as I attempted to finish reading my book before my evening bible study. Truth is, we only went there because I was turning into the screaming crazy mom and knew we needed to get out of the house before someone (aka ME) snapped!
The peace of this photo lasted for about 2 minutes before I heard Steel screaming at her sister from inside the play area. Miah was trying to mother her and she was refusing to come down the slide. So I had to literally climb up the slide and rescue her (with some not so friendly moms watching this whole debacle). Then we left only a short while later, only for Miah to discover she left her coat in the booth with her money in the pocket. A full on meltdown followed. (We were able to recover it. Thank God.)
And my favorite ….
All of this because I asked her if I could take a picture of her cute outfit before our first day at MOPS! Never did get a picture. And we were late to MOPS. But we did have a good time there!
Oh and Thursday evening …. well it was just a nightmare! I snapped at my husband and children like a freaking crazy person. I over committed myself once again and had to cut out a ton of these acorns, plus the most intricate little trees for Miah’s class party. While also preparing for a sample night at my house and feeling the need to make sure everything in my house looked perfect before anyone arrived. And at the same time, we ruined our salmon and had nothing to eat for dinner, plus I realized I had forgotten a few items for the class party and had to make time to go to the store for the third time that day. I was just glad my husband came back home after his workout that night. Let’s just say I had a lot of apologizing to do.
Anyone else relate??
And there was sooooo much more that I just didn’t have time to capture in photos. Like the mounds of laundry, the dog messes I feel like I am constantly cleaning up after, and the mum on my front porch that I officially killed. Life is messy, chaotic, and imperfect. And it’s so much better when we embrace the current realities around us instead of wishing we had perfection.
It has taken me a long time to realize that I need to take a chill pill and be real with people. We can have deeper, more intimate relationships when we allow people to see us in the midst of our mess.
How often do you unintentionally make others feel like you have it all together? Are we feeding into each other’s insecurities and making the problem worse?
What if we commit to Share our mess for the rest of this month? Show each other all of the crazy moments and keep it real! Let’s use the hashtag #RealLifeMoments to document our true day to day life activities.
Let’s lean on each other as we realize that we are not alone in our messy, everyday lives. After all, we are all better together!